Refactor ShutdownSocketSet atomic state machine

Summary:
[Folly] Refactor `ShutdownSocketSet` atomic state machine.

* Format.
* Use `while` over `goto`.
* Avoid `memory_order_acq_rel` as the single-argument memory order; some platforms fail to build that.
* Use `memory_order_relaxed` for all atomic operations because stronger memory orders are not actually required: the atomic state never serves as a barrier for synchronizing loads and stores of associated data because there is no associated data.

Reviewed By: davidtgoldblatt

Differential Revision: D6058292

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