Replace ShutdownSocketSet to singleton

Replace ShutdownSocketSet to singleton

Summary:
We recently found out that ShutdownSocketSet consumes 150+MB for our service, which uses duplex channels. The problem is that we create ~1000 of ThriftServers, and each of the creates its own ShutdownSocketSet.
In reality, ShutdownSocketSet is only needed to kill all socket's FD in emergency before crash dump is taken, so they don't hand around waiting for crash dump to complete. There is no need to keep a SSS per ThriftServer, singleton should work just fine.
There is a problem here, though. Currently a ThriftServer has 'immediateShutdown' method, which kills all sockets from SSS. So, if SSS becomes a singleton, and we have more than one ThriftServer, calling 'immediateShutdown' on one will kill sockets from the other one. First, it's a quite surprising behavior, and second, it complicates unit tests, which emulate thrift servers running in different processes.

As a result,
1. ShutdownSocketSet is created as a singleton, but each ThriftServer still keeps weak ptr to it (mostly for unit tests support).
2. replaceShutdownSocketSet method is added to ThriftServer.h, so unit tests could set different SSS for different ThriftServers.
3. method immediateShutdown is removed from ThriftServer, because its behavior would be 'surprising'.

There still may be unexpected consequences of this change for the tests because of Singleton, but let's see.

Reviewed By: yfeldblum

Differential Revision: D6015576

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